As society evolves so do the expectation clients have from the escorts they are dating. Being an escort has long turned from revolving all around physical intimacy, into being more of a form of elevated companionship. Clients nowadays are more focused on the energy of the escort, the general vibe of the encounter, and her attention to the client’s mood and disposition, rather than just being all about sex and short-term pleasure.
A service that is more and more on demand for clients, even if they do not know exactly how to name it, is the emotional support service that focused on the before and after care an escort is offering, and on small “girlfriend” details that makes the client feel listened, understood, remembered and seen.
We are living in a society of things done in a rush, of fleeting moments and a constant search of the next big pleasure, and that takes a toll on everyone. That is why an increasing number of clients are so focused on the emotional aspect of an encounter.
The emotional support service is still underrated, but it should not be, as when it is done right it can make your service unforgettable and turn your clients into regulars!
Here are a few ways of bringing your emotional support escort service to the next level:
Use the “active listening” technique
Men that work in high-pressure environments tend to feel the need to be listened and validated.
So, next time you have a couple of hours or longer encounter try applying the 70/30 rule, where 70% of the time you let the client speak and the rest of 30% you ask him open-ended questions such as “What was the best thing about your week?” or “How did that make you feel?”.
Continue by validating his feelings, as a fast way to create an emotional bond with him. Try phrases such as “I can see why you are so stressed” or “That must have been awful, but you managed to handle incredibly well”.
Do gestures of comfort
Showing emotional support is not only verbal but also physical, so while your client is talking you can try making prolonged eye contact, as a sign of your investment in what he is saying, touch him gently, something non-sexual like squeezing his hand or resting on his shoulder. These are called “grounding” touches that help a person release oxytocin and lowers the cortisol level.
Also adjust your posture to a more open one by avoiding crossing your arms and by leaning towards your date as a sign of engagement.
Validate their feelings
Be understanding and emotionally available, avoid phrases such as “at least it’s not as bad as…”, because he will feel like you are minimizing his feelings, use validating phrases instead, such as “it’s completely understandable that you feel like this”.
Even if you feel like what he is saying is wrong or that he has made a mistake, respond with empathy rather than critique as you are not there to correct his mistakes or show him guidance, instead your role is to offer comfort and a sense of relaxation and understanding.
Remember the small things
Nothing is more special than a woman that shows her man that she remembers pieces of their past conversations. If you are not good at remembering things, you can always create small notes on your phone, to use when you meet with a certain regular client.
When the two of you meet make sure to ask him about the project he was stressing about the last time you’ve met, or about his pet that he loves, or the tv series that he is watching. By doing so you show him that you pay attention to him and that you value both his person and the things important to him.
Offering emotional support as a service doesn’t mean you should turn your date into a therapy session. That is why it is very important to set healthy boundaries from the very beginning.
Shake off the client’s energy at the end of the date, so that you won’t feel burdened by his problems when you go home.
Make sure that his emotional unloading doesn’t take up all your time together. Instead set a time limit for this part of the date and when the time ends gently shift the conversation towards more intimate pleasures.
Never offer advice, so that you won’t find yourself responsible for his life and the outcome of his actions.
The emotional support escort service is highly valued among clients, as male loneliness, social shyness and stress are taking a toll on men’s mental wellbeing. So do not undermine the impact of showing emotional support to your dates, and use it as one of your most precious escort services.