During your escorting activity you’ve probably run across a certain type of men that are not looking just for a quick sexual release, or to blow off some steam. There is a typology of client that every escort should have in her portfolio: the one that’s in it for more than just a quicky. That’s the client with the greatest potential of becoming a regular!
It is not just about SEX! Men are not seeking the services of a professional lover, an escort, a cam girl, only for the bed breaking sex. Did you know that when a man lacks sex while in a relationship, the first instinct is not to cheat on the partner by going to another woman, but to look up for online porn?
So, if not sex is the answer to the “What men want in a woman?” question, then what is?
Here is where we step in to give you some pointers that will help you better understand how your client’s minds work and how to fine tune your escorting services and skills to meet their very specific demands.
Because if things were just about sex, offering total satisfaction would be a piece of cake for an experience escort such as yourself, but the men’s true needs are a little deeper than that.
Men look to be worshiped
Sounds a little narcissistic but it’s the truth. When we strip them down to their primal core, being worshiped and idolized is something that each man desires. But fully admiring and idolizing the man in front of you is not something that a wife, a fiancé or a girlfriend does, or if she does so, she does it at the very beginning of the relationship, because with time she gets to see more nuances of the man’s true self and gets to see him just as he is: fragile and vulnerable, and what men really want to expose himself in that raw manner?
So, ladies, idolizing and flattering is the way to a man’s heart and to turning him into a regular. But don’t overdo it or do it in a dramatic or fake manner. Look at him, listen to what he has to say, analyze him, and then work with the “real material”. For example if he dresses in a nice manner then flatter his taste in clothes or in combining colors, or if he has great hair tell him about that and about how most men would die for a strong, healthy hair like his, or if he tries to lose weight by following a tight diet, applaud his initiative and boost his ego by telling him how courageous and determined he must be to embark in such an important life changing journey.
All this will give him a sense of strength, of importance, an ego boost. This translates into him wanting to spend more time with you and therefor booking more dates.
Men look for novelty and fun
Let’s face it, when you’re with someone for over 10 years, flirting is a thing of the past, is not something you do, and so is noticing a sexy cleavage, a new perfume or having an unplanned, middle of the day quickie. Things tend to be more organized, more planned and un-surprising in a relationship, so it is natural for the partners to miss the sense of fun and excitement in their relationship, and this is why they go to you, dear escorts!
They want you to bring back the naughty flirting, the dirty sex talk, the unexpected and the sense of novelty into their life. They don’t blame their partners for the predictability of their lives, because most often they see it as something that must occur in a stable relationship, so they turn to you to help them relax, to make them laugh, to make them flirt and to make them act like horny teenagers once again.
And the great part in all that is that by going to a professional escort there’s little to no sense of cheating on their spouses.
Men want no judgement when it comes to kinky sex
Most men grow with the idea that some things must not be done with their partners, maybe because they think those sexual pleasures may be too kinky or dirty for their life partners or maybe because they feel embarrassed about having such thoughts or needs and are afraid of being judged for them.
Here is where professional escorts step in with an open mind and wild imagination, ready to listen to their date’s fantasies and deepest erotic desires and eager to explore this side of their client’s sexuality. From soft BDSM to anal sex, rimming, outdoor sex or MILF fantasies, escorts must be willing to treat these erotic fantasies with a warm smile and a naughty look in their eyes.
Men look for kindness and affection
These are two of the things that are sometimes lacking in a relationship where the two partners know everything there is to know about each other. In a relationship we tend to be more critical, on a rush to check the next thing on the to do list and less emotionally available for the man next to us.
As a highly experienced escort you are more than a great lover, you must also be an amazing listener, an empathic person, always ready to caress, to listen, to hug and even to offer a shoulder for him to cry on, to get rid of the negative emotions and stress. You may find that some dates are not about sex, or sex is left on the second place, because sometimes your clients are just hungry for affection and kindness.
Keep in mind that if you want to take the next step into your escorting life and have more and more regulars, that will help you have a more stable life and income, you need to be more than a lover, you need to be an emotional support and a person not afraid of their own sexuality and of the sexuality of their dates.
What other things you’ve discovered that men are looking for in an escort? We can’t wait to hear your stories and thoughts on this subject!