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Regulars – Bliss or Risk? The downsize of dating a regular client

0 comments 01 Apr 2016

Having one or multiple regulars can be every escorts dream, because creating a bond with a client and converting him into a regular provides the escort with some financial and personal safety. The logic goes like this: if you have three-four regulars that visit you once a week or even twice a month you get to cover your expenses and stress less about your further income.


But there are also some disadvantages to see a client on a regular basis and there is also a fine line between dating a client and turning that casual dating into some sort of friendship.

If you think that the relationship with a client turned regular will stay exactly the same, then you are wrong and you must prepare yourself for the inevitable changes that will occur.




1.     The boundaries will be pushed – familiarity, hygiene, haggling over money


Extreme Familiarity

During the first dates both you and the client will be on your best behavior, he will be extra careful not to break the rules set up at the beginning of the encounter and not to be extremely familiar. But as the dates go by and the client turns into a regular, he will be prone to act in a familiar manner, feeling that he could deserve special privileges and extra time.


Masks off

Also, just like in real dating scenarios, when dating a regular at first he will make an extra effort to conceal all the negative traits of his personality and of his behavior. But, as the familiarity grows deeper between the escort and the client, he may feel like it is time to stop bothering so much about appearances and he will be tempted to show another side of him – for some the hygiene becomes no longer a priority, while for others the courtship and polite behavior is no longer as important.


Bargaining for discounts

Other clients may request special discounts just because they are regulars, and that is a major no-no when it comes to respecting the escort-client relationship. The attempts of bargaining, haggling over prices and asking for discounts may turn into a frequent behavior of some of the escort’s regulars but the most important thing is never to give up in front of their demands. Remember that you are a professional and that you are offering a high quality service for his money and don’t let yourself be tricked into this kind of low scam.


Meddling in your personal life

A client that sees you on a daily basis starts to feel like he knows you in a more personal manner and he may feel justified to meddle in your personal life, to give you unsolicited advice, to fixate on your life choices and to start acting as a partner not as a client.

All four types of behavior are frequent when it comes to regulars and all of them must be treated the same: cut the connection with that particular client, before he turns into a nuisance!




2.     The client tends to develop an attachment towards you

This is a problem that can go both ways: the client grows fond of the escort and the other way around. This thing usually happens because of the amount of time spent together, the intimacy shared, your constant presence in your client’s life.

Another trigger may be the “girlfriend experience” that slowly starts to feel like the real deal. The dates out to dinner, the discussions, the laughter, the way you start to know his hot spots, all those can make your client have mixed feelings.

If you feel like the boundaries of your professional relationship have been broken, try to back away from your regular and take a break from dating him in order to leave the spark go away.


3.     The dynamic of the encounter might change

Regularly dating a client might turn out to be just like normal dating. You get to learn his likes and dislikes, the things that turns him on and the ones that makes him laugh.

This may lead to two different situations: in the first case the sexual excitement and satisfaction may grow because the partners start knowing each other and they start working as a perfectly oiled machine and in the second case the excitement may disappear from the same reason…. because the partners start knowing each other to well and they start acting predictably.

In this case the best thing is to take some time off, get some space and put some time between your future dates.


So keep in mind our advice and even if having a couple of regulars that you get to see in a daily basis sounds like a perfect idea from a financial point of view, try to respect your rules, keep the boundaries up and your regulars eager to see you and always asking for more!

 

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